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Go Ahead, Judge Me

Go Ahead, Judge Me

Posted on 06. Aug, 2010 by in General, Inspiration

This afternoon I was talking with a girl friend about judging. We were discussing how everyone assumes something (aka, judging) without getting the facts first.

Let me get personal. The last few years my health has been rocky. I’ve had a lot of trauma. And more stress then you can shake 17 trees at. The doctors are baffled. I’ve had TON of tests done. I’ve been sick- really sick at times in fact. I’ve been (and still am) frustrated. Not just with having inclusive results, but with people judging me for the way I look. Aren’t ultra marathoner’s supposed to be skinny bitches? Why aren’t you a size zero? You can run a 100 miles, but you don’t look like it!

While there are reasons for the way I look, let me be clear, I am NOT fat. I am NOT obese. I am Sarah. I am beautiful. I am awesome. I have done things that 99.9% of the world will never accomplish. These are not statements of pride, but confirmations to myself that no matter what the world sees, I know that the inside is what counts. I have always believed that my life was meant to help others. My life mission statement began as a 6 year old girl “how can I be a blessing to someone, somehow, someway, somewhere.” And I firmly believe that.

People would rather judge then get the facts. People would rather make themselves look good then take the time to take 5 minutes and ask (and really mean it!) if everything is okay.

The statement “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is complete BS. Words DO hurt. People can be cruel with their words. People judge with their words (and words they don’t say too). Don’t be one of those people.

Through this experience I have prayed to God and asked “why me.” I didn’t get an answer right away (God does that you know:)), but the other day as I was on a long training ride, it dawned on me that what I am going through is to help other people. My life mission statement! I can relate to people who are having a hard time with weight. I can help a kid who has been told he or she will never amount to anything and tell him I was told the same thing. And to go prove them wrong!

You can go ahead and judge me, but if you do, get the facts first. Some day you might be dealing with something and wish that you had treated others with kindness.  Be quick to love. Be slow to judge.

I write this from the heart. So for all you lurkers out there, go ahead and judge me, but….

Remember, karma is a bitch.

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8 Responses to “Go Ahead, Judge Me”

  1. Tweets that mention Go Ahead, Judge Me | Sarah Stanley Inspired -- Topsy.com

    06. Aug, 2010

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  2. Sarah

    06. Aug, 2010

    Great post Sarah!!! Thank you :)

  3. Michelle Sedas

    06. Aug, 2010

    You, my dear, are beautiful. You are awesome. And you, Sarah Stanley, are such an inspiration to me. I am blessed to be able to call you my friend.

  4. Sarah

    06. Aug, 2010

    Thank you Michelle! That means a lot to me. xoxo

  5. Erica Maier

    08. Aug, 2010

    GREAT POST Sarah, and it’s for this reason that I decided to become a running coach after being asked by my running club (USAFit). I don’t fit the stereotypical physical mold of a runner. My easy pace is slow. I am not lean. I am not solid muscle. I wear “plus size” jeans. I struggle with my weight every day. But I can do things many people can’t. And if I can, anyone can. USAFit encourages all shapes and sizes to participate and I feel my body type will put some members at ease, and maybe even help open up some dialogue.

    You do amazing things, girl. I firmly believe the more oppression you get, the bigger the positive impact you will have! Press on!!

  6. City Girl

    15. Aug, 2010

    This post made me want to give you a huge hug! I wish that people didn’t judge and that their words weren’t so cruel. But, I commend you for turning the negative into a positive…for helping others…and for reminding us all to value what really matters.

    I hope that you meet a doctor who does have some answers, and admire you for inspiring others even when you don’t feel your best. xoxo

  7. kate

    31. Aug, 2010

    I love how you have a positive, helping attitude! Attitudes like this are definitely contagious. Thank you!

  8. Rev. Run

    07. Sep, 2010

    You rock, and it’s awesome to read your inspiring words and your life goal that you discovered at the amazing young age of 6.

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